My husband's been away, and he's coming home for Valentine's Day, but he has to leave shortly after Valentine's Day. I planned a great V-Day surprise for him that he's all excited about, but it's getting to the point where I'm getting frustrated because he's just not good at Valentine's Day. The only reason it's important to me is because I really want to have a great memory to be able to hold onto until he gets home for good. Plus it's our first Valentine's Day as husband and wife.

The first idea he came up with was dinner out. Not that how much money spent matters, but I'm spending $300 on his V Day present. It just doesn't seem on the same level as my gift for one. On top of it, it's something that doesn't even have any sentiment to it. It's not like he thought of it, knowing me and what I like, and thought it was a good idea. It's just a generic dinner. Not even at like a special place or a restaurant of value to us, you know? He knows that I'm a really sentimental person, and that I like sentimental things. I reminded him of that, and I told him why this V Day was so important to me. So he suggested going to a local ski lodge here for a night. Well that was a GREAT idea! It was romantic, sweet, sentimental for us, just perfect. It would have cost $250 for us to spend a night, including our room, dinner, activities, extra money, etc. Then he turned around and said we didn't have the money for it. Well, first of all, I handle the finances, and we have more than enough money for it. He doesn't handle the money so he wouldn't even know. And it just makes me mad that he'd suggest it if he thought we didn't have the money or didn't want to for some reason. It just seems like he doesn't want to but he won't tell me why. So he asked me if there was anything I wanted. Well I mentioned wanting a really nice pair of diamond and pearl earrings, but I said right away that it probably wasn't a good idea that he try to buy that for me, since he doesn't know much about jewelry, and what I was thinking of was probably going to be more expensive than it would have been to go to the ski lodge (girls, you know about jewelry). So he takes that and shows me several different pairs of earrings, and 1. I don't like them and 2. they're not diamonds and pearls. He doesn't understand. Girls, you know how it is with jewelry. I would rather have a few really nice really classic pieces of jewelry that I can wear with anything. Diamonds and pearls are great for that because they can go with anything! He also knows I like sapphires (my birthstone). Well he shows me jewelry that's more expensive than the ski lodge and isn't what I said I was looking for at all (even after I told him that guys buying jewelry isn't a good idea). So then he's trying to show me other stuff. Basically Amazon has a suggested V Day gift list. He's just picking stuff off that list. I asked him why he picked some of the things, and he goes "because it's not jewelry." Not because you like this, because I thought that. It's like hollow. And he SERIOUSLY sent me a link to a litter box. For V Day??? A litter box? He wants to get me a litter box?

God I just want a present that has MEANING to it. I tell him that, but he does NOT get it. Even if he just made a scrapbook of pictures I would be ECSTATIC. And him suggesting the ski lodge, then going against it because it's too expensive, and then showing me more expensive stuff just confuses and frustrates me. It's like he wants me to verbally tell him what I want for Valentine's Day. I am really not that difficult about it either. He knows what I like. I like pictures, picture frames, scrapbooks, sentimental stuff, you know? Just simple stuff that has meaning to it. I told him that my V Day gift would be just having him home to end the absurdity (because I really wanted to tell him to f*** off after the litter box incident but I didn't). He really seems to be trying hard but he just sucks at V Day ideas. What should I do?
You guys are really awful. ENOUGH of the sexual comments. And to the person who is telling me what to do for him, can't you READ? I have his V Day present all planned out for him. We are going to see his favorite sports team and he's actually going to get to meet his favorite sports player and get to tour the locker room with him!! And after that I planned for someone to come to our house and arrange a really romantic night for the two of us. Candles in the bedroom, etc.
Alright, so what does you getting laid off have to do with anything at all? We have 0 money problems, great job security, and we make 150k/year combined FYI so I don't know why you are saying it's about the $$$ when I clearly said it's NOT. I'd be happy with a darn scrapbook, but he isn't even capable of that.
WHY do you guys keep suggesting stuff for HIM? He has a GREAT V Day present planned already! Can't you guys READ?
Tingtown, 10 days later he'll be in another country, for crying out loud! That's why it matters!
You guys are all idiots. I'm seriously so wrong for NOT WANTING A LITTER BOX or something off a GENERIC AMAZON LIST? I just want something that is SENTIMENTAL and shows that he thought of ME because this is the ONLY chance we will get to spend together for another 6 months. And he can't even put together a SCRAPBOOK??? You guys just want to be jerks to whoever asks questions on here!!!!!

By: Paprika

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